If you have been working on having a positive thought process, then kudos to you! You have really made great improvements to your thinking patterns. Now it is time to do another helpful practice that will be of great help in enhancing the positivity emerging inside you. For this next step, you need to learn how to start appreciating yourself and giving yourself credit for the amazing strengths you possess.
Why Appreciate Yourself?
Do you ever wonder why you are never able to accomplish your goals and achieve the success you have dreamt for? Maybe it is due to your inner critic who is constantly scrutinizing and criticizing your every action. Your inner critic is your shattered and negative inner-self; a voice inside you that only sees your weaknesses and pinpoints them as well. It is this voice you have been listening to for a long time, which is why you doubt yourself and are never able to realize your potential.
However, when you appreciate yourself, you will be more confident and liberate yourself from feelings such as useless or hopeless and that you too have something to be proud of. You may have some weaknesses, but there’s something special about you as well. Something that you can be proud of. This gives you the courage to believe in yourself and move forward as a confident individual who isn’t restricted by their self-critic and is free to do whatever they please. To enjoy the full benefits of a positive mindset, it is essential that you work on praising yourself. Here are a few steps on how you can do that.
Create an Inventory of Your Strengths
Having a list is a good way of keeping track of things you want to remember or accomplish. People make lists as a reminder for all sorts of things. Why not make a list of your strengths to remind you that you’re good at something?
Take a pencil and a paper and jot down everything nice about you. Don’t over think each idea, just write down whatever comes to mind. This list could include the strengths, talents or other good attributes that you think you have. If you are unable to think of any, then try to remember any positive qualities others think you have. For instance, think of the time you helped your father with his business report and he told you that you were good at making reports. Maybe, making good reports is your specialty. You can also think of any similar events and dig deeper into yourself to come up with a list of your strengths. Label this list as your ‘strengths inventory.’ This list will give you the hope that you aren’t a lost cause and that you have a lot of things to be happy about. Always keep it with you and take look at it from time to time to strengthen the belief that you are an amazing individual with a lot of unique strengths. This will help build and increase your self-confidence.
Make Positive Suggestions Using Your List
Take your list and make suggestions for every strength that you have written down. For instance, if one of your strengths is ‘good debater’, then make a suggestion stating, ‘I am confident and excellent at debating.’ Similarly, if you have written, ‘kind-hearted’, you should make a suggestion stating, ‘I am a kind person who spreads the love.’ After the suggestions have been created, you need to make a habit of saying them aloud for about 20 to 30 times daily. The purpose behind creating these positive statements is to strengthen your belief that you have great abilities to be happy for. It will also help you enhance these talents. When you repeatedly say good things to yourself, your mind embraces them and starts creating positive thoughts accordingly. Your positive thoughts then start moving around, attracting positive opportunities and helping you accomplish your set goals. Like what you have learned earlier in this book, positive thinking helps create productive actions.
It’s time to put an end to that constant criticism. Give yourself a much-needed pat on your back so you can start feeling good about yourself. When you feel good about yourself, you start behaving accordingly as well. Your mind stops creating negative thought patterns once you make it a habit to focus on your strengths and believe in what you can do.